God is real

Yesterday rather than have a breakdown, I had a break through. I’ve been battling with a few things for a while now and it’s cause me to shut down completely. I’ve tried in the best way I knew how, to ask for someone to listen and help because I felt myself sinking but unfortunately I broke down.

My two amazing friends did the best they could, and anyone I talked to in between those two I changed the topic of conversation. I began to with in my journal daily asking the universe and God specifically for clarity, guidance, strength and reassurance, and yesterday I received just that in the most purest form! It was totally unexpected and I was damn near defeated inside. I am so grateful for receiving the very thing I needed, the person I had the conversation with and the conversation itself.

I won’t go into specifics about what I’m experiencing, I will say that I don’t like sudden change that I don’t see coming or anything that will negatively disrupt my routine. I have a hard time coming to terms with what was possibly not being that anymore if that makes sense. Sudden change that I never expect affects me deeply, even if it looks like I’m cool and together on the out, I’m falling apart inside and it’s something that I’m working on but you can only work on so much by yourself.

Yesterday I thought about quitting blogging all together, shutting down Doses of Jay, Quitting CampusLately and deleting everything, it’s still a thought just not as strong. My blog was the very thing that helped me grow and come to terms with a lot that I suppressed years ago. I’m not sure what I’ll actually do yet but for now I’m here blogging sharing my experiences hopeful that I can catch whoever’s reading this before you fall.

As my mind begins to drift from this topic, I want you all to know that God or whatever you believe in is real! I asked for clarity/ guidance everyday on my situation and state of mind and I received it in the best way possible. If you’re going through something write down what you’re going through and ask for what you need to help you get through it and be open to receiving it! You could be surprised at how you received your answer and from whom the universe decided to give that answer to you.

I’m going to leave you with a verse I received. Joshua 14:23 “…I know with all of my heart and all of my soul, not one thing has failed, of all the good things God has promised concerning me for all have come to pass.”

 

P.S. if you’re from Snapchat I’m okay I just had a mini breakthrough, I’m not 100% but I will be.

Comforting: Anxiety Filled Depressive Episodes

Mental health is very important and should be taken seriously. Especially with millennials today, it’s so much pressure to be someone who impacts the world in a positive manner. The pressure can be from society and also from ourselves, in my opinion everyone is nervous or anxious about what they’re doing and if what they’re doing is what they should do in order to reach the next level (the level/goals you set for yourself). Some people can snap out of the depressive feeling quicker than most, for those who can not it’s important that the people around them know how to comfort them.

You should not tell some who’s experiencing an anxiety filled depressive episode any of the follow:
• This too shall pass
• Just Pray about it (it’s not as help as people assume)
• Assume
• Make it about you and what you’ve done
• offer an unsolicited opinion
• Pressure them to “Calm Down”
• Force them to interact with other people (let’s go out you’ll feel better, this can actually be damaging)
• See they’re going through something but not acknowledge the change in behavior
• Laughing it off
• “You’re just being dramatic”
• “It’s not that deep”

None of these things are comforting in the slightest way, and could add negatively to whatever the person is already feeling. Personally I do experience anxiety filled depressive episodes, it can be damaging to talk to someone who doesn’t understand how to comfort in these situations but instead of getting upset with these people I choose to educate them, if you know better you’ll do better.

Some of the things that you can do:
• Create a save environment where the person feels comfortable discussing things that bothers them without judgement.
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• Turn them to helpful blogs /Articles (I.e https://dosesofjay.wordpress.com/
• “I’m here if you need someone to talk to”
• Be Reassuring
• Be Encouraging
• Listen to Understand
• Just be there, knowing that they can call on you whenever could honestly just be enough
• Allow them to speak to you when they’re ready
• Allow them to openly talk about their feelings
• Buy them a Journal
• If they want to go to therapy ask to join them
• Be Supportive
• If you notice they’re being more reserved than usual check in on them

The smallest gestures can help so much more than a quick “pray about it” or not acknowledging it at all. Check on your friends especially the ones who have yet to find a way to cop with they’re issues, you may think they’re turning up every weekend because they want to be lit, when their lives could be spinning out of control and they’re not telling you how they feel because you aren’t comforting. Think about it, please check on some you never know what someone is dealing with.

 

Wild Thoughts (Literally)

I just recently wrote a letter to myself, in the letter I have about 40 unanswered questions, I’m not sure when I will open or if I should attach my current answers and compare the differences between my answers whenever I decide to open said letter. I’m debating if I should keep the letter on one of many Zip drives or just email it to myself, I’m thinking Zip drive because my OCD will not allow me to have an unopened email for more than a day.

I think right now I’m in a head space of reflection, I have questions brewing everyday, questions about my childhood, past relationship be it romantic or platonic, current relationship, friendship etc. the crazy thing is I feel as though I’m not at liberty to answer any of these questions because I don’t know what they mean/ what they’ll do for me. I’m detached from certain elements of myself and I’m not sure if the detachment is making room for growth of if I’m silently losing my mind.

I do notice no one really asks me what’s going on with the thoughts in my head, that’s why I don’t share them unless it’s on this platform and even then its only was on the surface at the moment; however, I continue to ask people if they’re okay or need to discuss something that’s on their minds because if left to your own thoughts for too long they can become destructive trust me I know. This is not to say I want someone to ask me now that they read this or what have you, I’m stating that at this moment in my life I’m being more observant than usual which isn’t an issue for me. I’m taking notice of small things that irritate me, make me laugh and smile, upset me or have me feeling indifferent.

This post is mainly for me to keep track of my thoughts because I’m too lazy to find my journal to keep this a private record, then I thought to myself that’s selfish someone somewhere might have similar thoughts as me, so what can I say to them that I in turn need to hear as well.

The answer is simple, There are no mistakes in life. You feel the way you do, struggle the way you do, prosper the way you do, think the way you do for a reason, it’s apart of your life’s purpose and I have to trust that it’ll all make sense and come together even if I don’t see it right now. So to you in the world if you feel like nothing makes sense right now, that in itself makes sense. I encourage everyone to write themselves a letter or write down questions and see where your mind takes you, you’ll be surprised by what it comes up with and if you feel like sharing you know where to email me.

-Jay

One Day or Day One?

I know it’s been a while since I’ve given a Little Motivation on a Monday, truth be told I need a little motivation myself…… then I start to think it’s either “One Day” or Day One. You can continue to put off your dream, goals, responsibilities or what have you with a “One day I’ll do this” or “One day I’ll do that”, which is fine and dandy but when will your One Day become Day One? When will you decide that today will be Day One of your journey towards whatever it is that you’re going to accomplish? I say you’re going to because I believe you can, whatever you want to do speak life into it with certainty!

No matter how long your journey to personal success may be, regardless of how many times you may experience “failures” keep striving for what you want! It (Your Journey) beings on Day One and doesn’t end until you’ve conquered every fear, gotten through every obstacle, clapped for every achievement big or small, moved pasted self-doubt and you reached the point of looking back and saying ” I always knew I was going to accomplish this one day”.

I believe in you, I speak life into your dreams. If you feel like no one else does, Jay has your back and is very proud of you! I’ll leave you with a quote that has motivated me to keep going. ” Sometimes the people with the greatest potential often take the longest to find their path because their sensitivity is a double ended sword – it lives at the heart of their brilliance, but it also makes them more susceptible to life’s pains.” – Jeff Brown

-Jay

This Poem Doesn’t Have A Title Because it’s Random

When I close my eyes I can feel you
Your presence, smelling your Eau de Parfum
I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t immediately attracted to you
But I don’t know you at least I don’t think that I do
I contemplated on introducing myself
Name, age, number you know
“Shooting my shot” “give it all I’ve got”
It could go left, fuck it introduced myself
When I eyes connect it was the purest form of intimacy I’ve ever felt
I found you, the one my kindred spirit belonged to
It was the magic of the universe working beautifully the same forces that drew you to me
Created this moment that’ll last an eternity
I never want to forget how this felt, never want to forget how hearing your thoughts and dreams made me melt
I’ll never forget the curves of your face…..          As my mind raced trying to recollect your name I heard my alarm ring sadly this was nothing more than a dry and who you are is till a mystery

Troll Hunter

Written about me and I think is phenomenal and very realistic!, Thank you Shae

Young Black & Nerdy

It was 3am and all she could do was stare at the ceiling. She gave up trying to sleep at 2am when it was clear sleep wasn’t in her immediate future. All she could think about was how her day unfolded in such an unlikely manner. The internet isn’t typically a kind place when it comes to comment sections but today was different. The collection of vile that had gather below her most recent story was rarely seen outside of a Republican National Convention. You would have thought she praised satan the way they reacted. She didn’t get into journalism to deal with an out of control comment section and that’s what she ultimately spent most of her time doing. Her complaints to her editor always fell on deaf ears. Any time she complained he would simply respond “I get how annoying they are Jay but those angry people in…

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Jae Breeze

Meet Jae Breeze a down to earth Artist from Littleton, NC (252). “. I set the bar and challenge myself and others with everything that I do. As an artist, I can describe myself as the future of the new wave. I say that because of my unique style and effort to make music that’s relatable to the listener. As an artist, if you don’t have a connection with the listener, then they will not listen to what you have to say.”

Writing since 2008 and recording since 2011, Jae Breeze is inspired and motivated by the reactions of his listeners. Music impacts everyone’s lives at some point where it’s for a quick turn up or the lyrics hit home for whatever you’re going through at the time, as an artist creating something that is authentic makes consumers of your work appreciative, in turn inspiring them and allowing them to relate to you as they see themselves. Jae Breeze exemplifies to a T, “The reaction from the listeners keeps me going, along with my family. When you have that type of support system behind you 100 percent, you must be motivated by that. When God sees that potential in you and creates new paths towards it, you’re supposed to keep going through the motivation you just received.”

I appreciate when artists are vulnerable and truthful in their music, it shows that they’re human and they may have gone through some tough times but they grew from it in most cases, Jae Breeze is one of those artist that is true to himself and translate within his music, I support that to the fullest listening to his music gives off great vibes. “I want my music to impact the world to a sense where more people will be moved and motivated to tell there “TRUE” story behind their music. I specified “TRUE” the way I did because I feel like artists, especially the ones in the area, feel as if they must live a lie to get by. If that was the case, then there would be no Jae Breeze, no Jo$hua Sheeran, etc. Once you choose the route you want to take with your music, you have to continue to walk it.” “The ‘Breeze’ behind Jae explains it all. I’m giving your that wavy, smooth type of sound that’s not going to go unnoticed. The true stories, events, lyricism, and metaphors are the things that makes up my musical sound.”

The music industry is a vast one full of different sounds, artist etc. personally the industry/consumers doesn’t know what it’s missing until its created and heard. By missing I mean when I hear a song that’s not what I usually hear on the radio constantly, I always asking myself “where has this been”, “I miss this sound/type/style of music”, “I need more of this. Hearing artist with distinctive and different sounds is refreshing and greatly appreciated. Commercial or mainstream Hip-Hop is cool for turn up occasions but I for one love great lyricism throughout a song. “Personally, I don’t feel like its missing anything. It’s more like what we have lost, because whatever is missing has already happened before in the music industry. I feel like we have lost Hip-Hop. We can’t even say that today’s music is real hip-hop. The only thing that I hear now a day are repetitive lyrics, catchy hooks and beats. Where are the lyrics within the verses? They make no sense like many artists do not take time out no more to take pride in their pen skills. I want my music to bring that type of feel back, to where the listeners will remember more than your hook.”

Within the next five years you can expect for Jae Breeze to still create music and expanding outside of the music to a food business in which he has already started called ‘The Craving Pit’ with a friend and brother. “We’re a chicken wings food business that applies different sauces to the wings to add to the crispy, tasty texture of the wing itself. I also see myself having a career still with the music because the love for it will never die. But, as an artist, I see myself expanding my talents beyond the music and that’s where my food business comes into play. I like to eat, but I love to cook.” Make sure you all keep bumping his music and order some food (I need a plate asap), follow Jae Breeze on all social media too stay updated on any performances and releases.

INSIDE EXCLUSIVE: Jae Breeze is currently working on a new project for the wintertime entitled ‘Intuition’ and the first single “Money Problems will be re-dropping, along with the premiere video for it during the summertime. Stay tuned for the new vibes.

Advice from Jae Breeze: Create your own craft and sound. Be your own artist and push that pen. Honestly, because I love lyrics and if your bars are great, I’m a fan.

Social Media:

Instagram – @therealjaebreeze

Twitter – @musikisinmysoul

Snapchat – @jaebreeze

Music:

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Apple Music: https://itun.es/us/fqThjb

 

Spinrilla: https://spinrilla.com/mixtapes/jae-breeze-4u

 

Tidal: https://tidal.com/album/72846082

 

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/album/1QinQwMBnGjKiE1yNrWrvZ

 

Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/jae-nccu-turner

 

Twitter: https://twitter.com/MusikIsInMySoul

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jae.n.turner

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealjaebreeze/?hl=en

Overthinking at 1:23 AM

 

Anxiety successfully consumed my mind.

I want to talk about it but I don’t want to come off needy… I don’t need anything from anybody.
I don’t want to make anyone feel obligated to hear me rambling trying to scramble my thoughts together, that’s what it is 1,000 thoughts swarming in my brain consuming my mind creating an overwhelming leery feeling.

So what do I do? I don’t know. If the answer was that simple I wouldn’t be here shedding Denzel tears. I can’t dwell or I’ll sink into a mini depressed state and that draining, I don’t like being/feeling anything other than positive. I need to isolate and recharge, I’ve been putting out a lot of positive energy lately and I need that back.

I hate discussing anxiety episodes because it’s “oh yeah I felt like that but you need to do this” bitch if it was that ease I wouldn’t feel like this, did you ever consider that? I did not ask for your advice. Asking me multiple questions during an episode irritates me because if I knew in this moment I would tell you… offer reassurance not your opinion

It’s shocking seeing as I always have an answer for something, thinking multiple scenarios with multiple outcomes some greater than the other, all the while know that the lesser is more realistic. Acknowledging what it is from what you want it to be, my brain never sleeps I’m constantly thinking, constantly helping /shedding light on someone else’s situation, while keeping my life in the back of my mind. It gets draining I’m not going to lie, will writing this help me? Is writing still my “thing”? Will my word resonate with someone?

Are all of the things I want far-fetched? Will this episode taint my happiness? Am I happy? If I can’t answer my own questions how can I answer someone else’s? It’s now 1:52 in the morning and I’m still up over thinking… I pray a dream catches me and bring some peace. I wonder if I’ll write way to deal with anxiety?

Isolate. Disconnect. Recharge.

Miss CEO Presents: Me’Ocia Rumph

Meet Me’Ocia Rumph of ‘To Be Alluring Beauty’ a tenacious Charlotte, NC based make-up artist, to be alluring is to be powerfully and mysteriously attractive or fascinating. As a beauty brand and company that is what Me’Ocia wants every client who comes to her to take with them. Make up doesn’t “hide” who you are as most people like to say, make up enhances your beauty and brings out a fierceness some didn’t even know they had within themselves.

 

When you are passionate about something it is a must that you bring your passions to life, especially when it comes to your career if you don’t follow through on your passions you’ll spend the rest of your life working to fulfill someone else passion. Miss CEO knew from a young age that working for someone else was something she couldn’t and would do, thus the birth of ‘To Be Alluring’. “In an industry like beauty it is a lot easier and a lot more rewarding to have your own company/brand than it is to work for someone else.  I know what I want out of life and nothing or no one will ever be able to get in the way of that. This brand is and always will be so much bigger than just me and I’m going to do everything in my power to make it as big and successful as it can possibly be.”

 

When you truly enjoy what, you do it will not feel like a “Job” or “work”, because every day that you wake up and get to do what you love is a reward within itself. What you are doing without even knowing is impacting the world and someone can be motivated to do the same by following their passion. “My biggest motivator is knowing that God did not give me this talent or bring me this far for no reason. Having a career that does not feel like work and allows me to empower, motivate, and sometimes just be the friend that my client needs is all the motivation I need.” “My clients. Although it is my job to give them a certain confidence that they may not have otherwise my clients inspire me more than they’ll ever know. Even on my worst days my clients are what keep me motivated.”

 

We all leave an impact on the world whether we know it or not, we all should strive to leave a positive impact ultimately the way we impact others will become a part of our legacy. “I want to make a lasting impression on anyone I touch through my artistry rather it be physically doing their makeup or them just seeing my work. I feel like there’s so much more to makeup and the beauty industry in general than the act of doing the service.” – Miss CEO

 

Within the next 5 years Miss CEO Me’Ocia see her brand growing beyond makeup artistry and into a cosmetic company. She plans to become a licensed aesthetician so that she can provide more services such as lash extensions, Botox, waxing, etc., however her long-term goal is to start my own cosmetic line. Until then make sure you book your appointment with her for an alluring experience

 

 

 

Social Media Accounts:

 

Instagram

 

Personal: http://instagram.com/ocieeee

 

Business: http://instagram.com/tobealluring

 

Guest Blog by Terrell Jones: How to Overcome Any Problem.

How To Overcome Any Problem?

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Since we’re human, that guarantee’s one thing will happen throughout college and our life…

We’ll make mistakes or run into some type of drama, controversy or challenge. That’s why it’s important to stay aways from the BOZO’s and surround yourself with ambitious people within a circle of like-minded students.

BUT THAT’S NOT ENOUGH!

You also need a few other tricks up your sleeve to overcome problems you’ll face.

Here’s 3 secrets you can use for the next problem you run into:

1) Focus on the bigger picture – When drama starts or you run into a brick wall, don’t let that stop you. Immediately think “Ok, what’s important here and what do I need to focus on to reach my goal?” It’s stupid that so many people continue to spend time on things that really don’t matter on the path to achieving their goals. I know that’s not you, but how well have you really been staying focused on the dream or goal in the mist of problems?

2) Be conscious about your thoughts – It’s important that you noticed where your thoughts are going. Fearful? Angry? Sad? Nervous? Be willing to explore that and ask yourself “Is that really true?” Take a step back and look at your thought’s from a 3rd party perspective and analyze if those thoughts and emotions are going to help you reach your outcome.

3) Anticipate problems before you have them – This one is best when you can do it ahead of time. For me, I like to wake up in the morning and ask “What can go wrong today?” I know it sounds negative but one of the most important skills in becoming successful is anticipating problems and being able to overcome them. So even if you still do run into the challenge, you’re better equipped to handle it because you thought about it already.

These are a few things that work for me and the hundreds of students I’ve been blessed to train through my books, blogs, speeches and social media platforms.

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