How to Get Over A Breakup πŸ’”

I was having a conversation with a group of young ladies going through break ups, and they asked me “how did you get over your break ups”. lol YAAAAAALLLLL

Break ups can seem horrible at first, because you’ve invested so much time into a person maybe even developed feelings. You’ve subconsciously redesigned your day around this person and now that it’s over, your whole life seems unbalanced. I want you to know that “it’s not the end of the world, it’s just the end of a world that you had with that girl/boy” -Drake. Seriously don’t look at a break up as a loss, embrace it as a result of something that needed to happen in order for you to make it to the next level. Depending on the extent of that relationship, there is not specific amount of time designated for you to be “over it”; However, you shouldn’t hold on to ‘what ifs’ or play the blame game longer than a month. A month is being generous to be honest, because if you’re like me you’ll want closure so you can begin to heal (that’s actually if you cared so deeply that you’ve connected with their soul, you looked passed their physical presence and immediately fell for who they are spiritually….if not then skip pass this part.) Closure to me is the most important thing you NEED in order to get over a break up, and I say this because it’s clear when someone doesn’t have it. They often dwell on the past relationship and bring those problems into a new situation or they constantly bash their ex as if they didn’t once have deep feelings for this person. A little piece of advice before I get to MY personal steps is: When you fall in love with potential , you’re falling for the IDEA of what they COULD BE, NOT WHO THEY ARE.

Jay’s Steps to successfully get over a Breakup
Step 1: DO NOT TWEET YOUR FEELINGS
Step 1.5: DO NOT GET PETTY
Step 2: Find Closure
Step 2.5: DO NOT KEEP BRINGING IT UP
Step 3: Self Evaluation (identity your part in the relationship ending)
Step 4: DO NOT STALK THEIR SOCIAL MEDIA
Step 5: Find a ‘Distraction’ to take your mind off your feelings (travel, read, write, crafts etc)
Step 6: DO NOT SLIP INTO THE MIND FRAME OF “All N**** and B**** ain’t S**”
Step 7: Forgiveness
Step 8: LET THAT HURT GO
Step 9: Think about what the relationship has taught you
Step 10: FLOURISH

*these are some of the things I did, it may work forΒ you it may not. I highly suggest that both parties refrain from being petty because nobody wins, you both will look stupid and hurt*

Jay

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