Mental health is very important and should be taken seriously. Especially with millennials today, it’s so much pressure to be someone who impacts the world in a positive manner. The pressure can be from society and also from ourselves, in my opinion everyone is nervous or anxious about what they’re doing and if what they’re doing is what they should do in order to reach the next level (the level/goals you set for yourself). Some people can snap out of the depressive feeling quicker than most, for those who can not it’s important that the people around them know how to comfort them.
You should not tell some who’s experiencing an anxiety filled depressive episode any of the follow:
• This too shall pass
• Just Pray about it (it’s not as help as people assume)
• Make it about you and what you’ve done
• offer an unsolicited opinion
• Pressure them to “Calm Down”
• Force them to interact with other people (let’s go out you’ll feel better, this can actually be damaging)
• See they’re going through something but not acknowledge the change in behavior
• Laughing it off
• “You’re just being dramatic”
• “It’s not that deep”
None of these things are comforting in the slightest way, and could add negatively to whatever the person is already feeling. Personally I do experience anxiety filled depressive episodes, it can be damaging to talk to someone who doesn’t understand how to comfort in these situations but instead of getting upset with these people I choose to educate them, if you know better you’ll do better.
Some of the things that you can do:
• Create a save environment where the person feels comfortable discussing things that bothers them without judgement.
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• Turn them to helpful blogs /Articles (I.e https://dosesofjay.wordpress.com/
• “I’m here if you need someone to talk to”
• Be Reassuring
• Be Encouraging
• Listen to Understand
• Just be there, knowing that they can call on you whenever could honestly just be enough
• Allow them to speak to you when they’re ready
• Allow them to openly talk about their feelings
• Buy them a Journal
• If they want to go to therapy ask to join them
• Be Supportive
• If you notice they’re being more reserved than usual check in on them
The smallest gestures can help so much more than a quick “pray about it” or not acknowledging it at all. Check on your friends especially the ones who have yet to find a way to cop with they’re issues, you may think they’re turning up every weekend because they want to be lit, when their lives could be spinning out of control and they’re not telling you how they feel because you aren’t comforting. Think about it, please check on some you never know what someone is dealing with.