It’s no secret that I deal with strong anxiety, it’s only been noticeable for about 2 years now and I honestly convinced myself that I was handling it properly…. I WAS NOT!
What I was doing was masking, I didn’t like the “help” people were trying to offer so I just concealed the anxiety for as long as I could before I reached the spill over point. The spillage would happen like clock work about every three months, I’d have the worst anxiety breaks somewhere better than others but all were equally bad and annoying.
I got fed up with the constant routine, I kept writing in my journal every full moon for the ability to control my anxiety but nothing was getting better until I realized that I really wasn’t putting in any work. YOU can ask God/ The universe to give you something but if you aren’t putting in any work its useless. I had to start doing things that made me deserving of my goal.
- Started a gratitude Journal. I don’t write anything negative or any worrisome thoughts in this journal (This is VERY IMPORTANT) nothing but goals and the positive things about my days go inside
- Interrupt Anxiety Attacks within the first 5 . it’s important for me to do this now, (because my panic attacks happen in my sleep and the very first panic attack was almost fatal.) It’s important that I pull myself out of that and calm down when I feel the anxious taking over. I tell myself “No we are strong than this, I am worthy, I will not let fear and anxiety take over, I know how to define my destiny” I keep repeating these affirmations until I’ve calmed down.
- Write down your goals . I use to just list off what I wanted to achieve and that’s fine for some, however it wasn’t until I started claiming my goals that I seen a true change in how anxious I would get about achieving them and even how disappointed I’d feel if I couldn’t get it done in what I felt was a timely manner.
- Stop Limiting yourself. We all put time frames on ourselves whether we know it or not, and that’s not okay. The pressure that comes from a time frame will only fuel your anxious, the closer it gets to the dates set in your mind the more your thoughts of not being able to pull it off will arise.
- TREAT YOURSELF. My Sundays are for Self Care Period. I need to recharge and collect my thoughts even the negative ones to check them and myself so that I go into the next week focused with a positive attitude. I’m not giving anxiety room to grow and fester because it’s draining and I don’t have time for it.
- Say No. No is your best friend especially when dealing with anxiety, if you keep saying yes to other people’s request and even your own you will overwhelm yourself and freak out. It’s okay to tell your friends and family no you won’t go out and no you can’t help them. its okay to tell your job that you cannot cover someone else shift (make your coint but don’t over exert yourself). Don’t take on more than you can handle.
This is what’s been helping me out lately and of course I still have plans on getting a therapist but until I find the right one for me I will keep it under control myself. Always remember just how rare you are there is no one quite like you.